Hello there you beautiful people! My favourite month of the year, October has set in, and I would like to share you’ll a very commonly advised about, but rarely cured issue. LETTING GO.
By letting go, I not only mean of a relationship, but also fear, guilt, sadness, a feeling of unforgiveness towards someone, anger, and so on and so forth. Whatever we give our attention to, wanted or unwanted, grows. If you focus on happiness, joy, and satisfaction, you’ll experience more of that. If you focus on pain, regret, and guilt, you’ll experience more of that.
Just think about it, have you ever tried to rid yourself of stress, only to have found yourself getting more stressed, especially when you knew you shouldn’t stress? Or have you told yourself to stop worrying, only to have found more things to worry about? You cannot reject or push against the unwanted. You cannot focus on a problem and find the solution. Because the solution is never where the problem is. So, you need to shift focus.
If you want to let go of a feeling, start by first accepting what you’re feeling. Don’t argue with your thoughts and feelings. Don’t resist them. Don’t try to push them away. Instead, give them permission to exist. For example, to accept guilt over something that happened, tell yourself, “Yes, I’m guilty.” If you struggle with forgiveness, tell yourself, “Yes, that’s right, I can’t forgive this person.” This doesn’t mean that what you’re saying is true. Instead, it’s a tool to control negative thoughts and emotions so they don’t control you. By agreeing with them, the battle between you and them ends. When there’s nothing more to argue about, they lose their power over you.
Letting go can easily trigger fear. When you leave something behind and don’t know what to replace it with, you leave space for the unknown. Change is always scary, especially when you don’t know what’s coming next. That’s why you might find yourself clinging to the unwanted because that’s what’s familiar and known to you.
To make sure that doesn’t happen, consciously decide what’s coming next. Let in instead of letting go. Rather than pushing away the unwanted, invite the wanted.It is when you finally stop fighting the obstacle, that you are able to see clearly. That’s when you can invite curiosity to join you instead.
Instead of trying harder to let go, accept fully where you are. Embrace it completely. Say yes to all worry, anger and guilt. Confirm all the negative thoughts and feelings so that you can release yourself from their grip. Simply, give up the battle and live the moment!
Photographs in this post are shot by Photographer- Mr. Shridhar Deshpande and two of his students from his institution, in which he has been teaching photography since almost a decade or more!
Stay tuned till the next post.
Lots of love ❤